I Don't Want To!!

[sarah thorne]

Originally Posted by Adelina

I've definitely had times I'm not in the mood to play, or discuss spanking online, or do anything involving it... so I don't. Being an object for a Dom's use whenever he wants isn't something that appeals to me outside of a scene.

Oh yes! I definitely have the same outlook as you when it comes to discussing through a cyber venue or "playing", so to speak with people whom I have no real vested relationship.

And being an object for a Dom's use is not something that appeals to me either, and I think I excluded that "kind" of relationship, which I would akin to something like a M/s relationship where it seems the whole dynamic centers around the objectification of the slave. And even many of them do not do it outside of a "scene" - unless they live it, I guess.

I think kaylex's analogy to "having a headache" was kinda dead on. And, in some instances, even the headache sufferer goes ahead and performs the act that they would normally enjoy, out of choosing to do so for their s/o. And, sometimes, their s/o may be oblivious to their "true" feelings on the matter at the time. Kinda like, in my instance, I don't think RG *really* knew I didn't wanna do something that I normally do. And so I chose to submit to it -- for him.

So, I guess maybe that's the kind of "did you ever do it when you didn't wanna?" that I was asking about rather than something like, "did you do something you didn't like cuz you felt pressured?" - kinda like in Kyra's situation.

sarah