Who is Responsible?

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In the context of the question asked, I think that the burden of responsibility shifts heavily to the Top. The bottom should do her part, of course, but the Top, who is in primary control, has the responsibility for ensuring that everything is ok and good. He needs to do everything that Sarah said: talk to the bottom beforehand, tell her what he does and what he's like, ask her what she wants and what he needs to know about her, set a safeword into place. He needs to pay close attention, listen to sounds and words, listen to the "emotional" condition, and more. While I don't align with J7's opinion that a spanking should never cause serious pain (I think it should cause whatever the spankee wants it to cause, including serious), I do think that the Top needs to ensure that he doesn't go beyond that.

When it comes to responsibility, it's Top, TOP, TOP!

Stand up to your responsibility, guys!