What Position Do You Prefer?

[RG_]

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

This can be answered by Tops and bottoms alike!

Bottoms: What position do you prefer for spanking?

Tops: What position do you prefer your spankee to be in for a spanking?

Is your preferred position different depending on type of spanking if your relationship also encompasses discipline as well as play?

Merry Christmas All!

sarah

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It varies for me and relationship does play a big factor. First, there is a difference based on whether it's for play, in the broadest definition, or whether it's for discipline.

With my girlfriend/sub, for most cases in play, I prefer OTK. If we're doing some kind of "scene," though--a rare thing but it does happen--then I prefer whatever is realistic for that scene, i.e. if it's a school paddling, then I prefer that the recipient be bent over a desk.

If it's discipline, I don't have a single position, but prefer whatever works for the time, severity of punishment, and convenience. As a general rule, though, I will say that if OTK works I prefer that, because even while the situation might be serious it still conveys, after a fashion, the fact that we have a relationship and that fundamentally I am still connected to her (sarah), i.e. it offers a degree of intimacy within the context of discipline.

[sarah thorne]

Altho I like the idea of OTK and the intimacy it represents, I find it quite an unstabling position. I find a lot of positions unstabling (you can look at my profiule pic and see that I am just about to fall off his lap!) . Much of it has to do, I am sure, with my height which is just an inch under 5'. (Yes, I am 4'11)

I prefer to be bent over something - the back of the bed has always been comfortable. Or over the couch arm. Or over our kitchen table. They are just the right height to be even with my hips and allowed me to be comfortable, without excessive stretching of the muscles in my legs, and presenting my bottom nice and upturned.

RG has me lie over the side of the bed often and I find this position very uncomfortable to stay in for a long period of time. The edge of the bed comes about mid-thigh, so I never feel properly bent and upturned, plus it puts a strain on my legs. I feel as if I am lying on the bed more than bending --- and this brings me to the position of lying down. I don't like to be lying down when spanked. I don't know why, something about it. When RG spanks me while I am lying on my belly, I actually try to slightly bend my knees to upturn my bottom to give it more of a 'bent' position.

We have used a pillow, but it doesn't seem to help all that much.

For punishment, I do like to find a position where he is sorta 'holding' me, for the intimate emotional connection. Since being OTK in a chair leaves me quite unbalanced, I have found that when RG brings two chairs together, places me OTK but with the second chair supporting my upper body, I am more comfortable.

However, the best position he has spanked me in is with him sitting on the bed, placing me over one leg with my upper body supported by the bed, and his other leg able to cross over my legs.

At one time, I think he believed that punishment itself was to be as impersonal as possible, (with proper soothing afterwards, of course) and therefore OTK was out. Most of my earlier punishments have been bent over something - kitchen table, back of the bed. I think the most comfortable position for me to be in has been over the kitchen table. However, it is associated with the worst spanking I ever received. (Damn school paddle)

sarah

[RG_]

And who was calling who long-winded in a recent post?!

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

...you can look at my profiule...

...and pointing out errors of spelling?

(Of course, sarah claims this was a typo, but to know sarah is to know the ever-busting-to-get out lawyer in her who will follow any avenue that she can find and juridicate on any nuance to establish her view. )

(And just as I was previewing this and she was looking over my shoulder, she says, "And did you actually post anything relevant on this thread?!!)

[RG_]

Reading sarah post makes me realize that I probably need to clarify what I mean when I say "OTK" because I realize that what I think when I use it and what I think most others think is slightly different.

The OTK position that I prefer is not the more typical one of sitting in a chair with the recipient draped across your lap, legs hanging down one side of the lap and head and shoulders down the other. My preferred OTK position involves them laying acoss my lap onto something that will support their head and shoulders, i.e. a bed, a couch, etc. The bed that we typically use now is really too high, while it still works. Our couch is good, but is in the front room so the sound could possibly carry out to others. And a couple of times, as sarah noted, we have used two chairs put together so that she can lay across my lap onto the other chair.

There are a couple of reasons that I like this particular OTK position better. One is that it's actually easier to keep the recipient on your lap. A second is that, at least for some and certainly for sarah, it's both more comfortable for them and gives more of a sense of stability.

[persephone]

i don't like anything as much as otk. i like feeling held and contained and i like being bent over, and i like feeling overpowered while all of that is going on. even though of course i do submit willingly to all spankings, bending over something often feels too willing to me. i love feeling like i can squirm and try to get away but won't be able to.

funny, sarah mentioned something about being short making otk difficult. i always thought it was difficult for me because i'm the opposite-- tall. it's a lot of weight pulling down on either side of my hips, with the weight of my upper body on one side and the weight of my legs on the other (i am just under 5'10"). and it's hard to figure out where to put my legs because they stretch out a good ways behind me, so they can't be planted on the floor in any way.

that said, while i find it more comfortable to have my upper body supported as some have mentioned, i find the vulnerability of being fully up-ended, staring at the floor, to be quite appealing. i haven't ever been in that position for a really severe spanking though. usually i do have my upper body supported by bed or couch. maybe if i had to experience it more then i would feel differently.

RG, this yankee doesn't say "billiard table," nor do i know anyone who does. that sounds kind of stuck up. we say "pool table" too... only rarely will you meet someone who says that they want to "play billiards." even then i think i've usually heard them call it a pool table too.

[PandaBear]

Depends on the implement! If its a handspanking, I prefer going OTK. However if its getting the paddle, I prefer to be bent over a desk with my butt sticking out!

[RG_]

Originally Posted by PandaBear

Depends on the implement! If its a handspanking, I prefer going OTK. However if its getting the paddle, I prefer to be bent over a desk with my butt sticking out!

First post, I see. Welcome to MSF, PB.

[Gary D.]

I would have to agree that OTK is still probably the most popular / prefered position and easily accomidates discipline as well as regular play. I have a preference for the spankee to be in a position such as over the back of couch or other object tall enough to get her up on her toes, especially for a caning as this makes the sit spot far more accessible.

Gary D.

[emily]

hmmmm oh Gary my good friend did You just say "caning"?

Originally Posted by Gary D.

I would have to agree that OTK is still probably the most popular / prefered position and easily accomidates discipline as well as regular play. I have a preference for the spankee to be in a position such as over the back of couch or other object tall enough to get her up on her toes, especially for a caning as this makes the sit spot far more accessible.

Gary D.

[spkr.al]

My favourate is o t k . but i also like my spankee in the diaper position.