Where does Spanking fit?

[One_Slick_Joker]

Hats off to you BV. I could not agree more with your answer to this thread.



-OSJ

P.S. I'm glad you kicked that pneumonia pal-I was praying for you.

I have been back and forth to this post quite a bit and do find it extremely interesting.


It is part of innate human nature to want to ‘fit in’ or be a part of something and indeed to know exactly where we do fit in.

We all at some point, usually during our teenage years, experience that awkwardness and sometimes the rebellion that is caused by not knowing where we fit in, or where we feel like we belong.

What fascinates me about this post, is that, we are all here, as people who have expressed an interest in spanking, not necessarily, that we are all fetishists, but that we share an interest. We have all come to a level of comfort within ourselves regarding our interest, despite society’s views on the matter.
We spend so many years trying to fit in, and finally we have reached a point within ourselves where we are comfortable enough to break away a bit from that ‘norm’ and explore our interest, with other people who share that interest…..and what do we do?........of course, we look for ways to fit in there too.

As human beings, we want to be accepted and know that there is nothing wrong with us because we have a non-vanilla interest.
It is perfectly normal to want to explore where spanking fits in, but to be honest, I’m not convinced that the answer to that question would be the same for any two people on this forum, or indeed within the whole world of spanking communities.
There may well be aspects and different levels of BDSM involved in different people’s perspectives of spanking and I would agree that there is a certain amount of acceptance and submission where spanking is concerned, and where there is submission, there must be dominance to facilitate that submission.
Its kinda like trying to determine where one blade of grass fits into a whole lawn.
No two blades of grass are the same, but each one fits into the lawn, which is the bigger picture.

perhaps it is because we are all different, that we do fit in!

take care,

Ami.xx.

[jojo222]

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Thank you Nomad, finally my metaphors are appreciated..............my life's work is complete!!!!!

.xx.

[Billy Wizz]

Thank you for all the excellent replies to my question. I wish I could comment on the replies so far in detail but my house was burgled a few weeks ago and they took my laptops and both my cars while I was asleep. When I have time and the replacement laptops I will get back to the thread.

Billy

I've talked to a few in the BDSM scene and they have told me that most are really into a few narrow aspects of the scene and not interested or even repelled by other aspects. I'm not only into spanking only but a rather narrow aspect of spanking.

[StripesTO]

Ami, not only are your metaphors appreciated, they are spot on! I agree we are all different. It's great that we are all different yet hold a common interest. It's great that we can all express our opinion too!

There will never be a precise correct answer to the bdsm/spanking fit. Whatever you belive the answer to be is exactly what it is!

Spanks to all,

StripesTO

Thank you StripesTO and again, thank you Nomad.

I believe that it is extremely important for everyone to be able to express their own opinions openly on a forum like this and for everyone's opinion to be looked at with an open mind.
Although we may not always agree with the opinion of another, there is no wrong answer to a question such as 'where does spanking fit?' It is different for every single person and the degree of spanking/bdsm that each person willingly and comfortably (i use that word loosely) chooses to engage in, is what is right for them,
so as StripesTO so beautifully put it 'Whatever you believe the answer to be is exactly what it is!'

To address Nomad's point about Punishment, It is my belief that punishment and spanking go hand in hand, and anyone who was spanked as a child will agree with that, you did something wrong, you were spanked, you were forgiven and it was all over with.
I do believe, as it has been my own personal experience that people do not stop 'needing' that discipline and structure just because they turn 18, and for such people, myself included, there are no sexual aspects to the spanking, it is strictly about discipline and punishment and atoning for wrong-doings and knowing that when it is all over, you are forgiven and for me, that is the best feeling in the world!

I cannot comment on how much or if any that punishment is involved in BDSM because I really have no idea, but I would feel that BDSM is more related to ultimate submission and dominance, not necessarily brought on by any particular misdeed but moreso because both parties have come to that arrangement and that is what they willingly do...i.e....that is what is right for them.

so maybe it is not for us to worry about where spanking fits but more to be concerned about whether we are being true to what spanking means to us or are we sacrificing our own individual and unique position in that lawn by trying to fit in, when if we just stepped back and took a look at the bigger picture, we would see that each and every one of us already holds a position of prominence.

Just be who you are.

Take care all,

Ami.xx.

oh well thank you very much Nomad...make me blush why dont ya?????

and if its only my mind you are after, you are more than welcome to it...everyone else is sick of listening to me at this stage!!!

would be more that delighted to engage in intelligent discussion regarding this and any other matters with you.

Ami.xx.

To me, spanking is where someone is hitting someone else's bottom! BDSM is a wide range of bondage, discipline, submission, dominance, sadism, masochism and probably some other things.

I think it's really fluid though. In my travels through the internet I find spanking sites that have things I don't like and BDSM sites that have stuff that really turn me on. But I would say that I'm more into spanking and submission than I'm into bdsm if I had to slap a label on myself.