How To Invite a Lady to Play....

[Winking Goddess]

Dear All,
So, I am fuming. This man from this site contacts me and asks me if I want to spend some time over his knee for a spanking. I don't know him. He does not know me. There is always trust involved for a spankee to bare ones bottom over another's knee. There is a lot of trust involved in posting here. There is trust involved in all of this. I responded to the Spanker. I asked him to tell me a little about himself. He told me nothing - but gave me a cell phone number to call and invited me to coffee. Well, I am not calling someone I know nothing about. If you want to get to know someone - take a moment - and write more then ten sentences - or don't bother. I asked for a photo - maybe a face would help. He would not send. And then told me that basically I was a joke - and would have backed out anyway. Well - I don't back out. But I do expect to be treated with respect as do many of us on this site. If you are going to make contact - then make contact. Don't send one liners and invitations to lunch. Most of us want to know a bit about who we are meeting! We like to see a face! If you can't do what is asked - then nicely decline...do not be insulting....be gracious! Say something like 'I am sorry but I don't feel comfortable - perhaps another time"...Why the put downs? Take it else where.

So if you are going to contact a lady - or a gentlemen for some play - be prepared to talk about yourself...in writing first. Be prepared to send some kind of picture...most of us will want to see you before we meet you and oh bare our asses for you!!! And if things don't work out - be kind - be polite - be a gentlemen.

Thank you for letting me vent. I am furious.

Pamela

[sassypants]

Originally Posted by Winking Goddess

Dear All,
So, I am fuming. This man from this site contacts me and asks me if I want to spend some time over his knee for a spanking. I don't know him. He does not know me. There is always trust involved for a spankee to bare ones bottom over another's knee. There is a lot of trust involved in posting here. There is trust involved in all of this. I responded to the Spanker. I asked him to tell me a little about himself. He told me nothing - but gave me a cell phone number to call and invited me to coffee. Well, I am not calling someone I know nothing about. If you want to get to know someone - take a moment - and write more then ten sentences - or don't bother. I asked for a photo - maybe a face would help. He would not send. And then told me that basically I was a joke - and would have backed out anyway. Well - I don't back out. But I do expect to be treated with respect as do many of us on this site. If you are going to make contact - then make contact. Don't send one liners and invitations to lunch. Most of us want to know a bit about who we are meeting! We like to see a face! If you can't do what is asked - then nicely decline...do not be insulting....be gracious! Say something like 'I am sorry but I don't feel comfortable - perhaps another time"...Why the put downs? Take it else where.

So if you are going to contact a lady - or a gentlemen for some play - be prepared to talk about yourself...in writing first. Be prepared to send some kind of picture...most of us will want to see you before we meet you and oh bare our asses for you!!! And if things don't work out - be kind - be polite - be a gentlemen.

Thank you for letting me vent. I am furious.

Pamela

what exactly are you furious about???....that he engaged in a put down...fair enough....that he wanted to speak to you on a cell rather than type away???....much more debatable....when you come right down to it....both a photo and/or yakking about yourself on line can be so much stuff & nonsense....I would prefer to speak with someone and if I then like what I hear...meeting for coffee /drinks....


When you tell someone that he/she should be "prepared' to talk about oneself in writing First and then be prepared to send a picture...well,cutting to the chase.....if you and I were in the same zip code ....and you told me that.............................I would leave skidmarks...


Sorry,



sassy

[Winking Goddess]

Dear Sassy Pants...
Would you like his phone number? Perhaps you would be a better match!
Smiles -
WG

[sassypants]

[QUOTE=Winking Goddess;12235]Dear Sassy Pants...
Would you like his phone number? Perhaps you would be a better match!
Smiles -
WG[/QUOTE


(laughs)....I see that you live in New York...hardly Palookaville....when it comes to the "club" scene in this kink,at least when I lived there,as good as it gets...

I live now in South Florida or,as my Cuban friends like to call it....North Havana...between the clubs and the munchs,you can actually meet people anytime you want...

Truth be told....if someone contacted me either on line or by phone....it would be a short conversation....I already know enough people who want to beat my bum...


And from one New Yorker to another..don't get furious...get shopping....Bloomie's always worked for me...


sassy...ex of 520 east 72nd street....

[Batman]

I think this thread just goes to show that every lady is different in how she likes to be approached or do the approaching. Guys, it is OUR responsibility to be flexible. Ladies deserve our utmost respect in their preferences and I don't care which one is the Top or bottom in the relationship. I could work well with either Sassy's style since I love chatting with new people on the phone or WG's style without complaining about either one.