Kaylex and Emmy Show: Part Dos.

[kaylex]

Let me expound!

Most of you know I LOVE to play! For many, many, many different reasons and depending on the reason I'm playing it changes what kind of communication I want.

So If I'm Pure playing... Let's talk! Let's joke and Brat and talk about what things feel like and what effect there having or not having. Let's talk about our pasts and the stories about different toys and times.

If it's roleplay let's talk first and then PLAY!!! I don't like stopping a scene to talk.

If it's Discipline... I want to be talked to and I will answer questions but I will probably not give you much else. I've never cried, I don't usually yell out or give much reaction beyond looking miserable and sorry.

If it's stress relief.......HUSH!!!! I don't want to talk to you, I don't want to think about what you're saying. I want to slip into subspace bliss...SILENTLY! The only exception to this would be if this is after a really hard weekend of play then there needs to be a bit more communication as to what the spanking needs to feel like to help get me to that place.

OK so that's me, I may be just a tad bit stoic(?)...What about YOU?

Kaylex

[paully62]

Before setting out on spanking play, I will talk to the young lady as much as possible before hand. Although my tenure in this area is young, my love for it goes more than 30 years. I really strive to find out exactly what she is expecting from the experience and try to mold it to my own wants and needs. It has been quite curious for me to see just how different the various young ladies are in their wants. Some want true discipline where some would never accept any from of correction. Some cant take that much whereas some you can seem to spank for hours with little reaction. I find out all I can and try and hit the scene running. I feel most experiences have gone well for both participants. btw...if you are reading this and we have played and you didnt like it...keep it your yourself. ...fragile top ego at stake here

[BlackVelvet007]

I like Kaylex's reply. That works.

For myself, I usually don't say much during a scene. I certainly have no problem engaging in conversation during a scene, but for the most part I'm so focused on spanking that beautiful bottom that I don't really chatter.

In a case of discipline, I'm inclined to scold based on what the discipline is for. That's kind of tricky though because words hit harder than the implement.

Roleplay is completely different. I'll run my mouth the whole scene as part of my character. Especially when I do my "State Trooper" roleplay.

And of course, ALWAYS keep an attentive ear open for safewords.

[jerseysweet]

I'm moving this back to the family question. Does my family know?

Most of them know, yes. By choice? No. My mom found out when I was about 13 (I knew how to clear the history but not so much about phone bills...oops). My oldest brother found out because in my family, he's the oldest male in the house and knows everything that goes on. He's cool with it - he's kinky too. He's a furry and so is his fiance. My mom knows but does approve. She thinks I should wait until after college, etc to worry about this stuff. I told her impossible. We don't really talk about it, simply because I don't want to hear her judgements, etc.

My youngest brother knows, much to my disappointment. I haven't figured out how he found out but he has been a very bad thing for me. He has actually told two boyfriends and one prospective boyfriend, about it. *sigh*

[BlackVelvet007]

Originally Posted by jerseysweet

My youngest brother knows, much to my disappointment. I haven't figured out how he found out but he has been a very bad thing for me. He has actually told two boyfriends and one prospective boyfriend, about it. *sigh*

Sheesh. It's lousy to be "outed" like that. Sorry that happened.

That raises another question, if the hostesses of "the show" don't mind. How many folks here have "outing" stories? Good or bad?

[RG_]

Originally Posted by jerseysweet

He has actually told two boyfriends and one prospective boyfriend, about it. *sigh*

On the face of it that may seem bad, Kate, and perhaps is. But on the other there is a silver lining. Any boyfriend who finds out and is uncomfortable is probably someone that you don't want long term, anyway, regardless of how you may feel at the moment. And anyone that discovers and goes, "Ah!!" just formed a closer and more accepting bond with you.

[bfunder1959@sbcglobal.net]

I've been spanking the opposite sex for over 30 yrs., so pretty much everyone in my family knows; mother, father, both my daughters, all my cousins, the neighbours, and almost everyone I've been friends with over the last 15-20 yrs. I very open about it, sort of in-your-face approach.

Bryan

[jerseysweet]

Originally Posted by RG_

On the face of it that may seem bad, Kate, and perhaps is. But on the other there is a silver lining. Any boyfriend who finds out and is uncomfortable is probably someone that you don't want long term, anyway, regardless of how you may feel at the moment. And anyone that discovers and goes, "Ah!!" just formed a closer and more accepting bond with you.

No RG, at 15/16 I wasn't looking for a spanking boyfriend. I wanted to be normal and be a kid in my everyday life. I didn't have that luxary though because he scared off one and the other just wanted some ass - meaning all he wanted from that point on was sex.

It was a very bad thing. No boyfriend should know unless the girl tells them. It is no one's business to tell people this about me.

[EmmyDoll]

I must agree with my good friend, Jersey. It IS no ones business to tell someone. Sorry sweetheart.

This topic started a good disscussion, and like some members are doing, feel free to go back to ANY topic that we have previously disscussed. We do not want anyone to feel left out if they have something to say about a certain disscussion question. What you have to say might be advice to someone else. Just make sure you relate to everyone which topic you're going back and disscussing.

I've one more thing to say on 'outing.' I have so much more confiedence since I went to the TAS party. A few of my vanilla friends know, only the ones that won't judge me. I post regularly on a public blog. (You can find the link in my signature. Is that awesome!!) and I now I have a spanko myspace that is getting pretty popular.

It feels good to have people know. Like a burden released. I understand that some people cannot out themselves due to jobs, family situations, and other instances. Me, however, I have nothing to loose. My parents wouldn't be thrilled, but they wouldn't disown me either. I guess I'm just scared, but thats okay.


I would love to leave this topic open for more disscussion, but it seems it HAS reached a end. I'll let this thread die for now. We'll be starting up the Kaylex and Emmy Show: Part Three in a couple of days. I'll have Kaylex officially end this thread with a word from our sponsers. But still feel free to disscuss the outing topic, but don't forget the KES show Part III

[kaylex]

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~Ian The London Tanners

Improving behaviour one girl at a time.

*Hosts note on this one. Ian's Leather is GREAT! But don't let him fool you he may make great leather implements but he's more partial to playing with canes!

That's all folks stay tuned to Episode III of the KES! (where we might even have a slogan by then!

Spank Out!