Crying

[Adelina]

"Mind your own beeswax" isn't a Southernism. People said it all the time when I was a kid. It's just gone out of fashion. There was a girl in my 4-H club who did beekeeping and got all bent out of shape whenever people took her bees' name in vain!

And RG's right, it's not the non-spankos, it's people who -are- spankos and don't realize there's more than one type of spanko. I think maybe we get caught in this net of "finally, I found a whole little world (website) where everyone's just like me!" and golly gee, they still aren't all like me. Still lots of variety. I ran into that very blockage myself and had to burrow through it.

[garyspk]

RG said:
I am surprised at how many people make assumptions, usually subconscious, at how spanking works in the human mind in relation to No. 1 above, and then blithely go blundering through the spanking world. At the least, they are out of touch with a lot of people who don't fit the narrow paradigm in their mind, and at the worst cause a lot of confusion and needless anxiety among those on a journey of discovery themselves. Most often the victims of these often-unintended effects are bottoms and subs.


...I couldn't have said this better myself.

To any newbies (or OLDbies, for that matter), keep that paragraph in mind at all times. That really sums it up nicely. Truer words were never spoken!

[BlackVelvet007]

Adelina's dead-on. The biggest misconception most newbies and non-spankos have is that all spankings HAVE to be some harsh, disciplinary black & blue affair. If that's what you WANT, it can be arranged, but it doesn't HAVE to be that way. It can be sensual to the point of being erotic. It can be playful to the point that someone ties the shoelaces together while over the lap (no taking notes, now ). Sometimes you just need maintenance spankings to keep in line with what you're doing. So many styles, so many nuances, so many options. Which is why we have these great threads about crying and rubbing