I Don't Want To!!

[BlackVelvet007]

Define "frame of mind for doing this".

I don't know any male top who will say there was a time when he said to himself "Aw, man, I have to do this NOW?? Crud, I am just NOT in the mood to spank her right now...."

Seriously, though, I'm sure it does happen, but every scene I've ever initiated has been because I seriously wanted to spank someone. And on the rare occasions when a spankee has come to ME to initiate a scene, I've considered it a big honor that I was asked.