I'm a girl who needs spankings fairly regularly and I luv them over a knee....so I put a pillow on a chair, raise my skirt and go over the pretend lap...take my panties down and spank myself with a hairbrush I bought from the Vermont Country store.....it's long and firm and it hurts...then I spank myself and cry...but you know what...while it hurts and it helps ...nothing beats a real over the knee spanking by a caring woman or man