[aurora]

Okay, I'm going to be a buzz kill for a moment here, and drift away from our usually fun threads. I was kind of wondering about if any of us (bottoms/subs, most likely) have found ourselves in physically abusive scenarios and if living within this sort of lifestyle makes it hard to act out against it.

Obviously, there's a big difference between consentual and non-consentual, and even that sort of role-played non-consentuality maybe of us enjoy that's within a consentual relationship. "No" isn't a safeword, right? But what about when someone REALLY crosses a line? When they do something in anger or a drug/alcohol induced unawareness that's just completely outside of your relationship and/or how you play.

Has anyone found that your submissive/bottom tendancies interfere with you taking steps of action that, in your head, you know you should, but the irony just makes it so hard? Anyone ever war with calling the police, because how can you explain to them that this one occurrance isn't the kind of hitting you like, especially when you know the other person will tell them that you essentially like rough sex, ect...?