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Ok I've had a few spanking expeirences latly. Some good some not so good. A long time ago. I was in a kinda relationship with a guy. Who simply just wasn't into it.
I guess I found out because we talked alot. They looked it up and still said they didn't like it. So I surgested maybe they should try spanking me. So we did a few times. Hand spanking was rubbish with him because it didn't hurt and it felt like he was just slapping my butt. No real sexual pleasure even for me. And if implements where used he was having a little to much fun for my likling and using them too harshly.
So I thought ok this isn't working maybe we can turn this around. So I thought hay you know what? maybe he likes being spanked. I was wrong again. And I felt bad. He was in total pain and I was totally loving it. But it felt forced and not right.
However even if said boyfriend is not into it. That dosen't have to be the end of your relationship.
I had another boyfriend who would do mild trades with me. So I would do something for him he liked and he'd do tha same for me. Even if the other wasn't into it.
Also I recently liked a guy who was totally into it and just wouldn't admit it. He still won't now. Playing games always helps. I don't know how others do it. But I think if you make a game of it first and make it seem fun and a joke. Everything seems less scary. Then when you are taking things seriously the next time it will feel more natural. I think playing is really important so trying things like pinching and stuff or light slaps and turning that into a game worked for me.
I have alot of guy friends who have shown interest and who are limited to what they like. They're curiouse, I used to think being into this was something you either are into or not. But I have many friends who have changed and started to like it after knowing what it's about and understanding.
Talking always helps. ^_^ sorry for my ridiculously long reply.
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