[kaylex]

Ok Isn't this pretty much the same thing as answering a partner who wants sex with "Not tonight I have a headache"?

I am not an expert in this area at all but I will add my two cents. I was visiting a spanko friend and staying with him for a few days. We had some great play times but nothing too severe. He Loves caning and for some reason by the second to last day before the trip ended we still hadn't done any.

So i asked him why and his response was "I just like being close to you and for some reason I just don't want to hurt you". Well that's all well and good but I wanted some intense play.

Later he went down to get some work done. When He came back up I was in a full naughty school girl uniform bent over a desk......

Needless to say what he wasn't in the mood for an hour earlier he was now in the mood for.

Sometimes I think the biggest part is helping your partner whether you're the one to psyche yourself up to do something you're asked or whether you're the one who helps your partner get in the right mindset.'

My 2 cents,
Kaylex