I think a mother and a father (and non one else) are both entitled to there opinions on whats best for their child. It they're both on board with starring in spanking movies then so be it. If the father is a deadbeat then it's none of his business however we don't know this. I'm not going to pretend it wouldnt be better for the child to not have to deal with this. And it's not a lifestyle or a part of her. It is a job. We're not talking about what they do with friends or each other in private. We're talking about they're business.
What doesnt sit right with me is that this started out as a custody type thing in the first post and then (presumably after legal council was sought) it suddenly became a situation of threats from unknown parties and blackmail and hate crimes against spanko's which now concerns all of us. If that is the case then it should be fought against by everyone here but I've noticed that everything is worded in legal terms and void of any actual information.
This is a very vague situation so far and I'm not so sure we're getting an accurate portrayal of whats happening. Maybe it's just legal maneuvering in which case we're supporting someone blindly. More facts would be helpful.