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I basically agree with what has been said here. My husband rarely requires me to hold still at all. He clearly enjoys my wiggling and yelping, and I like that he enjoys it.
That being said, for me, my response to holding position depends on the type of spanking. I've never been required to hold position for a punishment, at least not completely. I'm sure if I tried to get up off his lap, or off the arm of the couch, I would've heard that dom tone that Sassy Sandy was talking about. That kind of movement would be more than an involuntary response; it would be defiance. I have never and would never be defiant to my husband during a punishment. He's always been reasonable about what is a punishable offense, and I've always been remorseful about whatever I've done. I try to accept and take the punishment the best that I can. But wiggling and kicking is something that I can't help, and during a punishment especially, I think my husband uses my physical response to gauge how much the punishment is getting through. Punishment spankings have always been the hardest for me to take, not because they are any harder, but because they are so much more emotional to me. If I had to hold completely still, I wouldn't be able to think about why I was being punished, or process what was going on at the moment. I think it would make the punishment ineffective.
I occasionally get therapeutic spankings. I got one the other day because I've been so stressed about a number of things that have been going on lately that I've been having trouble coping. I have a very difficult time crying; when I get too stressed, my body responds by getting sick and making me incapable of eatting well or sleeping. Anyway, I got one of these spankings a few days ago, and it was very effective. It was a handspanking, and I was sobbing by the fifth swat. Although handspankings from my husband hurt, I wasn't crying from the pain. I don't think I've ever cried from pain. The spanking pushed me over the edge, just as I needed it to, and I was releasing all of my stress. I noticed, however, that I didn't wiggle at all during the spanking, no matter how much it hurt. I went limp and just sobbed. I was so much in my own head that what was happening to my bottom almost felt distant to me, almost like it was happening to another person. Does that make sense? Anyhow, my point is that during this kind of spanking, I do not feel the need to move the way I need to during a punishment spanking.
The only time that my husband and I have played with holding position is during playful spankings. I think this was more about power exchange, and my ability to submit to him. I enjoy submitting to him more when it is something that I have to put a little effort into. For example, a couple weeks ago, my husband asked me to ask for a spanking. He told me that he wanted to hear me say, "spank me." A simple request, but that is something I've never done before, and until then, he'd never heard me say the word "spank" out loud. It is something that I still have trouble with. But submitting to him like that, doing something that was a little difficult and embarrassing to me, was surprisingly sexy. So in this way, holding position has also been sexy for me. He'll tell me that I am to hold a certain position during a spanking, and we both know (although it is never said) that he's going to spank me until I am forced to break position, and then some penalty is imposed. It is all in play though, and because it is play, and because I am putting effort into submission, it is quite pleasurable for me.
Anyhow, I suppose I've rambled enough. Thanks for reading.
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