[lil_dixiedarling]

The topic has come up in a few chats as of recently so I wanted to take it to the boards.

The connection between being spanked and crying doesn't seem to hard to make....except if you are the type that can not cry due to a spanking like myself.

I always read and hear Tops say how they enjoy (if that is the right word for it) a bottom to wiggle and even be brought to tears by the power of their spankings even if it is just a destressing release....but what happens if the bottom does not cry - does that mean the spanking was any less effective and does the Top not get anything out of it because of this?

It was also brought up recently that punishment should come with tears..to rid oneself of the guilt and such brought about by the wrong doing.....does that mean a punishment is less effective if not accompanied with tears?

The act of crying along with a spanking is a deeply fought battle within myself..yes i admit that it might be nice to let go in that emotional release but I have to face the facts that that might be the holy grail for me which may not be found.....

Any thoughts?

Sherie