[ScarletFanny]

I feel asking for it outright is ideal some of the time and bratting or acting naughty to get it is alright part of the time. Variety is the spice of life and to do all one thing or all the other would end up becoming stale, boring and even pensive. It also depends on how much you get spanked when it isn't your idea in the first place such as he decides to spank you for maintenance. You agree to it but, you may have not originated the plan. So, if you are already getting an ample amount of spanking, you may not need to necessarily ask for it and may want to just act all bratty to get a fun one once in a while. But, if you've had maybe a very stressful day at work and really want to have some therapising to unwind and to let all the tension slip from you and you aren't scheduled for maintenance or desire extra on top of it, then by all means ask for it. I have to comment here about our scene and how much I love it. I love that we have some of the most varietal of relationships with all the lovely flavours to explore either lightly or heavily and how much fun we truly have. You go to a vanilla party and it's yawn city most times but, come to one of ours and you get a group of people who are some of the funnest to be around. Also, I find that we have a much more heightened realisation of our sexuality, our bodies, our emotions and are very intellectual people. I truly believe that if you want the most out of your spanking life and relationships, you'll excercise multiple options and enjoy all of them. Live it to the fullest, sample much and then hang on to what you love.