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Hello I am male around 40 in Tennessee, Into spanking and even sometimes being spanked. I am married but the wife isn't into this sort of thing. And with kids around not real easy to spank the wife. And like I said she doesn't really like it so I am considering finding a discreet playmate. So what is worse to try and spank her knowing she isn't into it or finding a girl who is into it?

That all depends on how much she trusts you. Spanking doesn't have to be sexual at all. I have spanked married women who have vanilla husbands. The husbands completely know what their wives are doing and they don't care. Also, my fiancee is into spanking. She knows that I spank other women and she doesn't care about that angle either.

She's not into it at all? If she won't let you spank her, maybe try seeing if she will spank you. :)

Yes well we have done that but she doesn't really like that either. Sometimes I don't mind receiving but others I would really like to spank her good. And have when she agrees whe has really needed it. But most times she won't admit it. But mostly spanking is sexual with me.

I am assuming you are talking about finding a playmate without your wife's knowledge. No one else can really answer "which is best" for you, because ultimately you are the one who is going to have to live with whatever decision you make.

sarah

I have actually discussed this with her. I am not sure if she thought I was serious or not. It is kind of a catch 22 I have been married and faithful for almost 14 yrs. I could probably get by with just a spanking playmate but I would be tempted to go further.

This is an issue I continually wrestle with, as the spankee. My significant other is quite vanilla (but I'm working on it). So far, when I have had someone else spank me, I have kept it from him. But I think that's unhealthy for the relationship. If I can't have my first choice of his being my spanker, I'm going to have to confront the issue and be truthful that someone else will be spanking me without sexual connections. Too bad I'm in Texas and you're in Tennessee, huh? :-)

Texringer