How hot do you like it ? Another question from Amber
 

I figured I was entitled to a few actually, since I haven't asked any in awhile.:rolleyes:

For Bottoms/Spankees : Well after a spanking, do you enjoy the after feel, perhaps a little soreness or sting as much as how it feels during the spanking & does light marking make you happy or grumpy ?

For Tops/Spankers : Do you prefer applying a faint pink, red, or deep red shade to a bottom ? Should the bottom be allowed to rub or not after an "earned" spanking ?
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Toward a medium pink to a medium red, but not bruised, is just right for me. I also have a keen preference for placement, i.e. where the redness (and therefore, the sting) is on the bottom.

my preference is warm and pink.....oh wait, that is my steak at Texas Roadhouse. As far as spanking goes...the redder the bedder.

I agree with RG. I don't like leaving bruises or welts. I like a nice deep even shade of red. Especially near the sweet spot.

I love having residual soreness! It's a nice reminder. I also don't mind marks, or even bruises altho I don't mark/bruise very easily. When I have actually sustained markings for more than a day, I check them often and, in a weird sick way, am actually a bit proud of them! When RG switched me for the first time, the switch actually ended up wrapping just a bit and leaving welts that lasted (ever so faintly, but still present) for months.

I have a topic that is somewhat related to this, but rather than hijack the thread, may pose it on a different thread. :)

sarah

I love the sting and heated feeling on my bum to last for hours afterwards. And I love the reddest hue possible from a hand spanking. I will actually look at my bum in the mirror several times to admire it, it also keeps turning me on for the rest of the night. I will rub my bum during a spanking only so that he'll hold my wrist aside and spank harder.

Sherie, I'm the same way....Love the spanking, the sting, etc, but the marks don't seem to last long enough for me anymore... I don't even like to rub afterward because I want the sting to LAST...... I too LOVE my cane stripes (DanDan got a new cane....yummmmy).....I like alittle brusing if it comes up, and I so love sitting down and feeling the uncomfortable feeling of a sore sweet spot....and although not a top, I prefer the redder the "bedder" as paully says.

I'll join the ranks of the women who love the afterfeel, the soreness and the marks... although I almost never mark anymore, which bums me out. I want evidence of what I took! :D -- Erica

I like to see nice light red from hand spanking and nice clear lines from caning. My lady likes a good glow with pain she can feel for a while afterwards

This thread and the offshoot thread have churned up some very interesting answers.

When you're a spanker introducing yourself to a spankee, the LAST thing you wanna do is scare them off with statements like "I'll spank your bottom until it's very red and sore", and yet most of the spankees here have stated something to the effect of "That's EXACTLY what I want.".

Also, to all of those who claim they "NEVER" bruise anymore : It only takes ONE bad strike to cause a bruise. Of course, one COULD argue that these statements are just a fun way of issuing a challenge ("Oh, no spanker can spank me hard enough to cause bruising anymore (wink)"), to which I'm several spankers will rise to the challenge. ;)

Hope the responses keep coming and that Amber posts her own answer as well.

I prefer the redder the better, but really depends on my partner. I have no problem with her rubing afterwards or in between spankings, or providing the rub for her.

I prefer the redder the better, but it really depends on my partner. Don't mind at all if she rubs in between or after spankings, or provide the rub for her.

I tend to agree with comments made by Highwayman & R.G. on this one. First, it depends on who I am playing with and what she can tolerate. Second, at times I do focus on stroke / swat placement.
For spankings (hand) I like to cover the whole bottom. With implements, it depends on what's being used. Though I'm often accused (falsely grrr) of having SDS syndrome?? I simply have a preference to concentrate on the sit spot most times, especially when caning ;)

As for the rubbing.......that's a yes and no answer. In disciplinary matters, no rubbing without permission. During regular play, it's rather enjoyable to watch her try to rub the sting away........though I'm always glad to do the rubbing myself!

Gary D.

I have to agree with Gary D, Highwayman & R.G.. It definitely depends on who the spankee is. I'm not comfortable doing anything too severe unless I know who I'm spanking. Assuming I know the spankee and she can handle it, my personal favorite is crisp clear cane lines across a white bottom. Again it depends on the implement(s) in use.

Again I agree with Gary D that rubbing is allowed in play sessions because they are play sessions, but in "earned spankings" or discipline spanking the spankee needs to hold her position unless she has permission to move. In that case rubbing can bring the same results as too much kicking or squirming. Part of the discipline in corner time is to have to stand there (or kneel) and keep your hands on your head or behind you without rubbing your burning bottom or moving around from the sting.

I love being able to feel it afterwards. I don't strive for marks, but I admire them if I get them. I love to be able to feel the heat through panties too. It's just a happy little feeling, a small reminder, that will make me smile a lot when I realize/remember.

I love the aftermath of a spanking, it makes me happiest.